How did I become an attached parent?

Before having my daughter, I hadn’t even thought about my future parenting styles. I did not enter this relationship with any preconceived notion of what I was going to do. I honestly don’t know how much of my parenting style was chosen by me and how much my baby demanded of me. Attachment parenting was developed by Dr. Sears, a well-known children’s physician, to promote instinctive and natural parenting. There are 8 basic principles of attachment parenting. I hadn’t even heard of ‘AP’ until long after I was a fan. These are the basic principles:

# Preparing for delivery: was she ready? No. But like I said, I DIDN’T PLAN to become an attachment parent.

# Emotional Responsiveness: After 8 months, L still has to cry herself to sleep. Babies cry because they need something, not because it is fun. Think about it the next time you cry.

# Breastfeeding: After her birth, I breastfed her almost exclusively for several months. Better for me, better for her, it’s obvious.

# Bed sharing – Breastfeeding every 2 hours led to me sleeping in my bed.

#Babywearing – Cuddling at night, perhaps, led her to want to be around me during the day, hence the Ergo & Polkadot Papoose.

# Avoid separation – I am fortunate to have a job that allows me to drive her to work so that we can be together 24/7. I miss her so much if I have to leave her for a period of time.

# Use positive discipline – We will get to this when you get there, but right now my baby is too young to need discipline.

# Maintain the balance of life: if I go out to dinner, L also comes. If I need to run to the store, she will accompany me.

Bottom line. This is what works for us. It evolved naturally. I encourage new mothers not to worry about following someone else’s rules about what is right for you and your baby. Don’t get caught up in reading the latest book on babies. Ultimately, do what feels right for you!

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