For centuries, men have searched for ways to capture a woman’s attention. They say that she learns to do something; she has to study those who do it well. History shows us Casanova, Don Juan and Romeo. Modern media shows us women who have become so captivated by a man that they are willing to go, give and do anything to be by his side. These modern schemers learned well from the tastes of their historical counterparts. While some have used this “the phenomenon of captivation“To exploit the very women they charmed, many greatly admired men also use it. These men have discovered the fine art of satisfying a woman’s most basic desires.
While good looks help, they are not the basis of this captivating phenomenon. Having an intriguing presence that fills a room and exudes confidence is what inexplicably attracts women. This subtle confidence should not be confused with arrogance or an arrogant and selfish attitude. It is a kind of silent knowing, that one is solid, that one is not easily changed by the opinions of others and that one does not seek validation.
For this type of man, a woman is a luxury, not a necessity. He treats a woman like a prized prize, never seeking to dominate her. He just wants to learn more about what makes her unique and nurture and feed her heart. This type of man ignites the imagination and playful spirit of a woman.
In the book CaptivatingStasi Eldridge outlines the three basic desires of a woman: to be idealized, to be irreplaceable, and to be beautiful. Every woman has a story, a woven story of the things that have been done to her, as well as the things that have been done to her and for her. As a result, many women are heartbroken from not having their needs met, being treated unfairly, or even abused.
Their hearts long to be nourished and restored. The heart represents the essence of your soul… your mind, will and emotions. Very few women have had these basic desires fully satisfied. By fulfilling these key desires of a woman’s heart, you’ll create a powerful bond that won’t be easily broken. To captivate a woman’s heart you need to fulfill these three key desires:
1. Desire to be “romantic.”
To be courted, desired, and have someone take the time to please you. Women look for this in relationships. Consider the books they read, the stories they enjoy, and the movies they watch. The idea of a man taking the time to pursue them romantically is irresistible. Look a woman in the eye and hold her gaze. Let her feel like she is the only one in the room. By giving her full attention, awareness, and interest, a woman can’t help but get carried away. By listening carefully, smiling, and engaging a woman in conversation, you will keep her imagination going. If you still don’t understand, watch romantic movies (rent The notebook), or reading romantic literature. If you want to keep a woman fond of you, romance her continuously throughout your relationship. Small gestures of your affection, offered regularly, will arouse her admiration.
2. Desire to be found irreplaceable.
To be so valuable to someone, that they couldn’t replace you in their life. It is a desire to be more than just useful, but to be essentially needed by someone. We do not resuscitate just being helpful. Do you want to be simply useful in your lover’s life? By allowing a woman to feel that she has an unshakable place in your life, you fulfill a primal desire for her. This creates a deep bond, making you irreplaceable to her as well.
3. Desire to be found beautiful.
Women want to be seen and enjoyed, to be captivating. As Stasi Eldridge points out, “The woman wants to know, ‘Do you love me?’ precious she is to him. Women feel beautiful by the way a man looks at them and how he touches them, gently with strong confidence. While verbal affirmation is desirable, body language must be present for a woman to feel that you find her beautiful.
Captivating someone is defined as influencing and dominating through some special charm, art, or trait and with irresistible appeal. By learning the special art of making a woman fall in love, making her feel irreplaceable and beautiful, you develop your captivating abilities. While other men may just date women, they will want you. Those whom you have loved completely will never forget you. Your wife will become a trusted partner.
The best part about developing and using these skills is that once you captivate a woman’s heart, she will go to great lengths to meet your basic needs. By having her needs met and her wounded heart restored, she will be able to give herself completely to you. There is a saying, “Happy wife = Happy life.” Therefore, when you make her happy, she will strive to keep you happy, out of love and appreciation for capturing her heart.