Jealousy is a debilitating and toxic emotion, one that causes damage to any relationship when jealousy rears its ugly head. Jealousy causes pain, anger, and other destructive behaviors that ultimately hurt yourself and the relationships in your life. For example, you won’t run up to your neighbor and yell at him for buying a new car, but you could get into a fight with your partner because your family budget doesn’t allow you to buy a new car.
Take this quiz to assess your level of jealousy.
1. Your best friend’s husband just gifted you with a stunning wedding ring for your 10th anniversary. You have been married longer, but you still have the same modest tone. Your:
A. Don’t talk to your friend for a while. You are too ashamed that she has something you want.
B. Tell her how beautiful she is and joke with her to say a few nice words to her husband.
C. Tell your husband that your friend’s husband loves her more and insist that he improve your ring soon so that you don’t seem so unloved.
2. You and your best friend are going to a party and she looks sexy. Your:
A. He’s upset, especially since he agreed to be casual.
B. Yelling at you for not following through on the dress code agreement.
C. Tell her how sexy she is and ask her where she got the sexy skirt from.
3. You heard through the grapevine that your co-worker received a significantly higher raise than you, even though you both have the same rank. Your:
A. Prank your co-worker on how he should do the next solo project as it’s better, but then never bring it up again.
B. You are happy for your co-worker. It seemed to go further, and lately you’ve been less serious and less focused on your career.
C. He is furious and storms his boss’s office demanding a reason for the pay gap.
4. You call your guy, who is attending a bachelor party. He’s having a good time. Meanwhile, you’re at home watching a rerun of “Batman.” You:
A. Tell him that when he is ready to go home, you will be waiting for him with open arms.
B. Give him a guilt trip, but tell him you love him and have fun.
C. Yell at him that you want him home before midnight or it’s over.
5. Your partner tells you that an attractive young woman started shamelessly flirting with him while having a drink with her friends. How you feel?
A. You are flattered that an attractive young woman thinks her partner is as handsome and lovable as you are.
B. As if you want to cry. The idea of him enjoying the attention or flirting makes you sick to your stomach.
C. Annoyed that he didn’t tell her to back off, but it probably won’t even cross his mind tomorrow.
6. You heard that your best friend from high school recently got married. In the meantime, you haven’t had a date in three months. How you feel?
A. Like a loser. If she can marry, why can’t you?
B. Happy for her. She was the one who dated the most in her group; it was likely that he would marry first.
C. Angry and upset. You would be a better wife than her.
7. A coworker lost 20 pounds in 8 weeks and looks great, whereas you have been on a diet for six months and have only lost five pounds. When she asks you how your weight loss is going, you:
A. Say, “Not as good as yours, but at least I’m not starving.”
B. Make a face and say, “Okay. Slow, but steady.”
C. Say, “Not as good as yours! You look fabulous. What meal plan did you use?”
8. Your parents bought your younger brother a new car. You never got a car from your parents, not even gas money. Your:
A. You are happy that your brother has what he wants, but you prefer to work for your own possessions.
B. Call your parents screaming and crying, demanding to know why you never received something as big as that from them.
C. He’s upset, but his brother was always the favorite kid.
9. You recently started dating someone and you find out that they still frequently talk to their ex on the phone. Your:
A. Tell him that you admire the fact that you are still friends after the breakup.
B. Demand her to stop talking to her if she wants this to continue with you.
C. Ask her if she would consider breaking contact with her if their relationship became serious. If they say no, you have the answer you need, because you deserve to have an exclusive relationship without baggage.
10. You are looking in a mirror in a dress you are considering buying when a woman twice your age walks out of the dressing room in the same dress and looks better in it than you do. Your:
A. Look her up and down in the hope that she thinks you disapprove.
B. Sigh, go back to the dressing room and take off your dress; it didn’t suit her figure.
C. Tell her that the dress looks great on her and ask her what her secret is to looking so young.
The green-eyed monster has you by the tail if you answered the questions as follows:
1 C; 2-B; 3-C; 4-C; 5-B; 6-A; 7-A; 8-B; 9-B; 10 A
The green-eyed monster has nothing on you if you answered the questions as follows:
1 B; 2 C; 3-B; 4-A; 5-A; 6-B; 7-C; 8-A; 9-C; 10 – C
The green-eyed monster is just one step away from having you by the tail if you answered the questions as follows:
1-A; 2-A; 3-A; 4-B; 5-C; 6C; 7-B; 8-C; 9-A; 10 – B