One of my readers contacted me in response to my article on past lives and paying karmic debts. She posed 3 very interesting questions: 1) Why the need to surround yourself with people with similar karma? 2) Story of the victim of incest and abuse, now also an emerging pattern in my son’s life. How do we both free ourselves? 3) Is a transformation of negative karma possible by doing good for others who suffer in a similar way?
I want to thank the reader for contacting me (and apologize that it took me so long to address these insightful and thought-provoking questions). I intend to address these questions in this article, but first I want to make two things clear.
First, I will share my own personal life and reveal that I, too, experienced incest rape by an immediate family member as a child. I say this just to assure you that I know what you’ve been through, not just from a conceptual level but from an experiential level. Therefore, this article is written from a place of deep understanding and humility.
The second thing I want to make clear is that I do not claim to provide the universal end and be the whole answer to any question. That is not my intention (and if it was, I would stop reading now if I were you). My intention is to inspire you to your own new thinking, to help you find a key that opens a new door in your mind.
Only your own new thinking can take you to the next level. or give you the growth and expansion you seek. And only you can open that new door. No one outside of you can provide your final answers because they are unique to you. I just hope to inspire you to that new thought (whether you agree with the words in this article or not).
So with that out of the way, let’s dive into those questions:
1) Why the need to surround yourself with people with similar karma?
In fact no need to surround yourself with people with similar karma. you are attracting people with vibrations similar to yours. When your predominant vibration is one of “victimization”, “rape”, “hurt”, “guilt” or whatever else (positive or negative), this becomes the predominant message that you are sending to the universe and the universe absolutely will. . reflects the parallel back to you. This is inescapable due to the law of attraction. It’s an absolute and you can count on it!
2) Own story of victim of incest and abuse, now also an emerging pattern in my son’s life. How do we both free ourselves?
This may be the hardest for you to hear, but in my own experience, there is only one path to true freedom: you must completely let go of the illusion of “victimhood”, and even the “survivor” mentality, and give up. the “blame cycle” completely. As long as you “blame” or hold someone outside of yourself responsible for anything in your life, you cannot really progress. Period. You should take full responsibility for everything in your current reality.
This is hard to hear and even harder to do. (Trust me, I know!) But the good news is, if you can accept this message, you won’t believe the empowerment and freedom that await you! It’s like a magic wand that will transform you into something you didn’t know was possible. Actually! (And by the way, the most powerful thing you could do to help your child right now is show doing just that!)
3) Is a transformation of negative karma possible by doing good for others who suffer similarly?
Again, this can be a bit difficult to hear, but very enriching once fully accepted: there is no need to “transform” anything negative. What you need to do is change your focus from “negative” to “positive.”
You are growing, evolving and looking for more. That is why you are here on this planet right now. You can call this “transform” if you want, but it’s not about focusing on something negative until it turns positive. (In my experience, this is a waste of energy).
As I said in the original article, “Reliving painful experiences from the past, whether in this life or the last, does not help us! “Focus on where you want to go from here, what you want to grow and give it all your energy.
Now, it’s okay to help others who “suffer similarly”, as you say, if you resonate with that, but be careful not to align yourself with the “suffering” part, because that is what you will attract! It is not about paying off a debt or correcting a mistake, it is about growth, expansion and advancement, for you and for all of us, for our global consciousness.
Feeling trapped in a cycle of negative karmic debt is one of the most debilitating and limiting beliefs out there. If you feel that you are paying some kind of karmic debt or experiencing karmic retribution in this life experience, if you feel that your past lives are somehow ruining your here and now, then I invite you to begin to step into your power by taking one. little baby step right now: forgive yourself for anything you think you have done wrong and accept your unfathomable worth, for your higher self and for all that is.