Men: Don’t underestimate the power of foreplay. And whether penetration is on the table or not, there are ways to please a woman that shouldn’t be neglected. In addition to practicing proper penile care and learning how to use his penis well, a man should strengthen his external play skills.
There are many reasons why a man can neglect the development and implementation of such skills. He may be nervous that he won’t “get it right” and feel embarrassed that he doesn’t know what to do. He may also be so absorbed in his own pleasure that he ignores his partner’s. These problems must be overcome. Sexual activity, whether penetrative or not, involves two people. Two people should be experiencing pleasure. The following tips can help men get more involved with their partners during outside play.
1) Be confident. Being afraid to do things during sexual play is a huge impediment to doing things. If a partner has consented (clearly and explicitly), then she wants the man. That should be a self-confidence booster.
2) Also, be humble. However, being confident doesn’t mean diving into new activities without first getting the go-ahead and knowing what you like. It is by no means a sign of weakness or ineptitude to ask a woman what she wants. Rather, when a man does it, he shows that he respects her as an individual with unique desires. He also shows that he wants to give her as much pleasure as possible: great arousal!
3) Mouth game. Kissing is often the first step towards sexual activity (although one should never assume that the latter is an inevitable result of the act). While preferences vary, it’s a good bet that a woman doesn’t want to be drool all over her. A man should try to keep her lips on hers instead of swallowing the lower half of her face. He swallows from time to time to prevent excess saliva from covering his face. He’s gentle at first as he moves his lips around her body; He may like to nibble, but he lets you tell or ask him. He may not be interested at all, or he may want to see your markings in his later days. Don’t assume.
4) Nipple set. If a woman has expressed an interest in nipple play, start gently. Some women like very light caresses with their fingers and tongue; others like to twist, pinch, and jerk; others like something in between. It is better to err on the side of caution. Ask him, “Is that good? Is it too rough? Do you want it rougher?” She will tell you what she is comfortable with. Starting with the most extreme stuff can be painful, an immediate turnoff (for some).
5) C point game. If a man isn’t sure how far a woman wants to go, he should ask if it’s okay if he touches her down there. Or, at best, she herself can put her hand there. It’s normal for men to be a little hesitant to stimulate the clitoris, because they may not be sure how a woman likes it. Here as in other situations, it is best to be friendly. Begin with slow, gentle circles around her clit. A man will listen to her responses and may speed up slowly or increase the pressure, asking her along the way if she likes him like this. If tongue action is desired, proceed with the same caution.
6) Fingering. Once she starts to get wet, the couple may want some internal fingering action. Don’t just stick two or three fingers in there; Start by circling the entrance, then slide one finger in, moving your finger around. Most women enjoy G-spot stimulation, which requires more than just sticking a finger (or two) in and out. With a man’s palm facing her clit, she can move her finger in a “come here” motion a couple of inches inward, varying the speed. He’ll know if she’s hitting the nail on the head by her reaction.
In addition to asking permission and asking questions during external play, a man can up his game by taking the best possible care of his penis. This will make a man’s member more attractive and attractive to his partner. Avoiding dry, flaky skin and unwanted odors are crucial steps here. Along with proper washing, using a penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) can go a long way. Natural moisturizers like shea butter and vitamin E keep skin soft and supple, while vitamin A fights odor-causing bacteria. Knowing how to please her is key; so is presenting a masculinity that she wants to touch.