So she left you. It hurts, it itches, it’s the most crushing feeling in the world. You spend hours and hours telling her how much you love her. How much she means to you, and it only takes her a few seconds to tell you that she is no longer interested. She has ended the relationship and is moving on.
So why the hell is he still texting you?
When an ex girlfriend still texts you after the breakup, there is a definite reason behind it. Actually, there are several. Some of them are good, some of them are bad, but all of them can be used as indicators of where she is mentally and emotionally.
What if you want to get it back? You will need to know exactly what these texts mean and how each of them should be handled correctly.
Reasons why your ex girlfriend still texts you
Let’s get one thing straight: it’s always hard to let go. Even if she was the one who broke things, you and your girlfriend spent time together. You have memories, you share special feelings that still exist. Nothing can change that except TIME.
For this reason, time is certainly of the essence. The longer you wait before acting, the further your ex girlfriend will go. Mentally and emotionally, she will pull away from you if you don’t do something to keep her interested, which is why moving quickly and acting right is so vital to making her want you back.
Back to texting…an ex who texts you is still thinking about you. This is undeniable, but don’t get excited just yet. There is no guarantee that she is interested, or even thinking of wanting you back.
However, your ex cannot bury his feelings so quickly. Those feelings are still there, and there are specific reconnection techniques you can learn to bring those feelings back to the surface. This is one of the last, and most important, steps to recover it.
So yeah, it’s a good thing he’s texting you. But should you text him? Well… that’s where things get tricky…
What to do when your ex girlfriend texts you
An ex who continues to text after the breakup is leaning on their old relationship for support. She wants you to be “there” (in case she needs you), but not THERE (romantically). This doesn’t do you any good, but it benefits her for several reasons:
- She has the consolation of continuing to talk to you
- By replying to her texts, she feels confident that you’re still interested.
- Your ex girlfriend knows exactly where you are (i.e. she’s not going anywhere)
All these things give you strength. They give you willpower. The worst of all is that they give him the confidence to continue with the breakup.
This is the complete opposite of what you want. After a girl breaks up with you, her first priority is to make sure her decision was the right one. She will try to justify that decision to herself, her friends, and sometimes her family. In short, she wants to know that she DID THE RIGHT THING.
Seeing how much you still like her and talking to you through text messages, she is ratifying that decision. The more you chase her by responding to her text messages, the easier it will be for her to run. Why? Because she knows SHE GOT YOU. She can go out, see other people, and eventually walk away…all with the confidence of knowing you’re a backup plan in case something goes wrong.
“But I don’t mind being her plan B. I can wait for her…”
That’s what you’re thinking, right? Is this what you told him?
Well, forget that. That kind of thinking is foolish and desperate, at a critical time when you need to be as strong and Alpha as possible.
The best thing to do when texting your ex
Do you want to know what is the best thing to do when an ex girlfriend texts you? Ignore her completely. Yes, I know you want her back. And yes, I know ignoring that text is probably the hardest thing you’ve ever done. But believe me, answering her is only justifying her decision to stay apart.
He has pushed you away, but wants to keep you at a distance. She wants the comfort of realizing that she can have you back at any moment, but with that knowledge comes the authority to get out of it and give another guy another chance.
There are 12 irreversible mistakes people make when trying to win back an ex. Texting with your ex is one of them. Learn what the rest of them are, because the sooner you can avoid making these mistakes, the faster you can get your little girl back in your arms.