Doc Love (aka Thomas Hodges) is an internationally known dating and relationship coach for men. Her knowledge and wisdom comes from having interviewed more than 10,000 women over the past 35 years and raising fundamental questions about why a woman chooses to leave one man and stay with another. He has also interviewed several men who are “natural” in this area and never have a problem getting and keeping women.
Doc Love’s exhaustive analysis of the information gathered from his interviews has culminated in 4 volumes of work:
- THE SYSTEM – THE DATE DICTIONARY
- MASTER I
- MASTER II
- MASTER III
THE SYSTEM – THE Dating DICTIONARY is the foundation course that lays the foundation for everything else. Once the student (whom Doc Love refers to as ‘Spartan-In-Training’) fully internalizes it, they can proceed to the advanced Mastery Series.
THE SYSTEM – THE DATING DICTIONARY covers some specific concepts and ingredients involved in the dynamics of any relationship. Some of them are the following:
Interest Level – Just as location is everything in the real estate business, a woman’s level of interest is everything in the dating game. Interest Level (IL for short) basically refers to how strongly she is attracted to you.
When his IL is high, he makes it easy for you, does anything to make you happy, and always finds a reason to be with you. On the other hand, when his IL is low, he starts making some interesting excuses to avoid being with you. The level of interest is a dynamic factor and man’s actions will determine whether it goes up or down.
Challenge = How difficult it is for the woman to win you over. If you are simply looking for an attractive woman, then you are not a challenge to her, because she does not need to do absolutely anything to win you over! Instead, if you set your standards higher and expect not only physical attractiveness, but also proper respectful demeanor, honesty, integrity, and a flexible attitude, then she needs to work much harder to win him over. In the latter case, show more challenge.
Confidence: It has two subcomponents: self-confidence and self-esteem.
Confidence in yourself = How strongly you believe in yourself. While it is possible to “pretend until you make it”, real confidence comes from knowing the product of life in general and women in particular ….. and your demonstrated skill in applying it.
Self-esteem = How much you value yourself. This is where it is important to say no to a woman from time to time, especially when you know that she is asking for something that compromises your integrity. Women often do this to test you! But if you stand your ground on such occasions, your IL rises. On the other hand, if you give in, your IL drops.
Control – It has three components: patience, self-discipline, and self-control (note that this is not about controlling the woman, which is really impossible!).
The 3 Cs mentioned above – defiance, confidence and control – are the steely masculine traits that raise a woman’s level of interest. A man needs to practice them all together to raise a woman’s level of interest. If your interest level drops, it is very likely that you are missing at least one of the 3 C’s.
Once a woman’s interest level rises more than 95%, you are never wrong in her eyes! And that’s where you need to be to have a happy relationship. However, there is also a set of velvet male traits that you should practice to keep his interest level high. These are: Affection, Respect, Romance and Humor.
If you don’t practice these velvet features, your interest level will decrease.
THE SYSTEM – Doc Love’s Dating DICTIONARY focuses more on long-term relationships than short-term affairs. And to have a happy relationship that lasts a lifetime, Doc Love teaches you that in addition to measuring a woman’s level of interest, you also need to measure her attitude.
To be more precise, you date their interest level, but you marry their attitude.
When it comes to a woman’s attitude, she should have the following non-negotiable elements:
- She must connect alone
- She must have high self esteem.
- She must have a flexible nature
- She must be a giver
- You must have integrity, which in turn is made up of loyalty, honesty, and dependability.
Keep in mind that a woman may have a very high level of interest in you; But if she has a lousy attitude, it will only end up lowering your level of interest in her in the long run. And this can make you miserable, especially if you get stuck in a loveless marriage.
THE SYSTEM – Doc Love’s Dating DICTIONARY also teaches you that once a woman’s IL drops below 50%, it can never go up again. So the relationship is over for all practical purposes. However, while most men would leave a relationship when their IL drops below 50%, women generally wait until their IL drops below 40%, due to their nesting nature.
And it can take a long time … possibly more than 10 to 20 years for this to happen (that is, for your interest level to drop from 49% to 39%). But during this period, you have almost zero chance of reviving his attraction to you. The relationship becomes a routine, and yes, you will have to put up with their incessant complaints, arguments, tantrums, and generally disrespectful behavior.
But once it drops below 40%, she has already built up enough resentment and hatred towards you that it makes up for the nesting factor … and becomes extremely cruel as a result! This is when you learn that many men have been falsely accused of rape, abuse, or domestic violence and sent to jail on trumped-up charges! I’m sure you must have found at least one friend of yours who went through this ordeal. Pretty scary, huh?
So if you want to avoid visiting a vicious family court against men; or shelling out truckloads of cash to divorce attorneys; or lose your hard-earned money and home to a ruthless ex-wife; or lose custody of your children; or lose your sanity in general, you definitely need to be equipped with superior knowledge about women and dating.